"It doesn't matter what other people think", we tell ourselves this as women and young girls all the time. Its a sad sentiment really, because ultimately it does matter to us what others think, especially when we are young and struggling to find our way in the world. I am so happy that I did not have "social media" while I was home trying to nurse and figure out just what Wyat was trying to tell me.
Having a baby is a scary proposition, not for the weak or timid and make sure your armor is ready for battle when and if you decide to "share" whats going on with you on Facebook. Whether its about breastfeeding, diapers, bottle feeding, immunizations, or even a picture of an outing at a local play space.
Immediate comments come flying in with either loads of support or "what were you thinking" and "I would never" or even worse. The fact of the matter is I am trying to remain judgement free. Who am I to judge what other Mothers have chosen to do. Its our own journey to walk.
In training as a Postpartum Doula I became acutely aware of the pressures and judgment we put on other women simply because their choices are different from our own. In this case it TRULY DOESN'T MATTER. If you decide to try scheduled parenting, or attachment parenting or attempt any of the myriad of parenting philosophies out there, it is going to outrage someone and they may throw around knives. Is your armor ready?
I have seen it happen. Countless times. I am guilty of it on occasion and admit that it is something I have to remind myself of on a daily basis. But here's the thing, practice makes perfect. Be kind, do good and practice peace and stop judging. We are all doing the best we can. Lets applaud the effort...
Lets support all women and leave the judgments to the professionals...
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Author Michelle Moody
I lead a happy little life, where my mission is to spread love, empathy and healing through massage.