Let's talk about touch.
It is believed that this is the first sensation in the womb and that this incredible sense of ours is developed as early as 8 weeks in utero.
It is also the last sense you will most likely have and experience...
THINK ABOUT THAT...
There is no replacement for human touch, Babies who are deprived of touch have a whole host of issues associated with it: serious cognitive issues, delayed muscle development, behavioral issues and sadly a lack of empathy and trust. Sadly, these issues do not resolve themselves and will follow into adulthood.
Therapeutic touch in the form of simple massage can significantly lower the stress hormone cortisol and helps to release the feel good hormone oxytocin, and endorphins which decrease pain.
Even massaging your own skin will help to increase activity of the vagus nerve that runs from the base of your neck to the abdomen. This little piece of self care can assist in improved mood, enhanced circulation and improved digestion.
Studies also show that to give touch is just as beneficial as it is to receive. Dr. Tiffany Field of the Touch Research Institute has MANY documented studies from Mothers of newborns to family caring for elderly loved ones. The common link in all of the studies, was that anyone who is touched or is touching is better for it.
As we age our desire for touch and the need does not go away and unfortunately, as a generation they are the least likely to receive touch. This is also the generation that shows some significant gains in receiving touch.
Senior facilities that recognize the need for implementing touch as part of their care giving, report seeing fewer problems with behavior, residents are more comfortable physically and are opting for healthier foods.
Some senior facilities in metropolitan areas are offering up "Cuddle Parties"" where participants can receive touch in a safe non-sexual environment. I for one don't hate the idea of a stranger touching me, I'm a massage therapist after all, touch is what I do. It is an interesting development in this world where an organized party of strangers is called to do the work of what we should be doing with our friends and family...
In todays climate of the world, where the ability to trust and have empathy for your fellow human seems to be on the decline, perhaps we could turn things around.
I'm hopeful for a turn around. I'm hopeful for a place where touch is welcomed, expected and accepted, where touch is a thing of honor and love. Do yourself a favor and TOUCH someone today.
Don't get me wrong. I love using FB and Intstagram. Facebook has been kind enough for me to allow social media marketing to help people in my area get to see what my business is really all about. People are confident enough to make a call and schedule with me because they feel they "know" me. As a result FB has helped me grow my business in ways I've never imagined.
That said I am reminded EVERY TIME I get on FB and read through my news feed, just how insanely easy it is for people to post terribly opinionated, one sided, small minded things in response to a persons post. Especially in response to how someone has decided to birth, feed, diaper or raise a baby. Raising a new baby is a scary, isolating experience. We all need help and support during this time.
Truth is that just because you think it doesn't mean you say it. How someone chooses to birth is their choice. We live in America. There are plenty of options and ways for doing things and what is right for you may not be right for someone else, regardless of what you think. It really is none of our business (even if its in our news feed)
Truth is that as women there is an underlying current of self doubt and wanting to please. At least to your face. When we are perched on the sofa behind the keys of our laptop it seems to be a free for all pile on for anyone who posts.
It is terrible. As a woman who lives, works and breathes to make life a better place I am saddened by this. I wish for a judgement free place where we can all together and celebrate our differences and also what we all hold dear to our hearts. Our children and families.
Please take a minute to re-think what you have written as a reply or post and make certain you have given time to think about the other side of the issue. We are all human. We are all struggling and looking for answers. Lets celebrate our decisions and stop worrying what other people think or have to say about it. Lets stay positive and nurture each other using social media... Make it less about "me" and more about WE...
Like your Mother taught you, "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all"...
Author Michelle Moody
I lead a happy little life, where my mission is to spread love, empathy and healing through massage.