"It doesn't matter what other people think", we tell ourselves this as women and young girls all the time. Its a sad sentiment really, because ultimately it does matter to us what others think, especially when we are young and struggling to find our way in the world. I am so happy that I did not have "social media" while I was home trying to nurse and figure out just what Wyat was trying to tell me.
Having a baby is a scary proposition, not for the weak or timid and make sure your armor is ready for battle when and if you decide to "share" whats going on with you on Facebook. Whether its about breastfeeding, diapers, bottle feeding, immunizations, or even a picture of an outing at a local play space.
Immediate comments come flying in with either loads of support or "what were you thinking" and "I would never" or even worse. The fact of the matter is I am trying to remain judgement free. Who am I to judge what other Mothers have chosen to do. Its our own journey to walk.
In training as a Postpartum Doula I became acutely aware of the pressures and judgment we put on other women simply because their choices are different from our own. In this case it TRULY DOESN'T MATTER. If you decide to try scheduled parenting, or attachment parenting or attempt any of the myriad of parenting philosophies out there, it is going to outrage someone and they may throw around knives. Is your armor ready?
I have seen it happen. Countless times. I am guilty of it on occasion and admit that it is something I have to remind myself of on a daily basis. But here's the thing, practice makes perfect. Be kind, do good and practice peace and stop judging. We are all doing the best we can. Lets applaud the effort...
Lets support all women and leave the judgments to the professionals...
This is my first official blog entry,I ask that you will provide me with some grace as this is not what I am used to doing... Massaging and trying to make the world a better place is what I do. It has been brought to my attention that as a self employed business woman, that I should be doing this.
There are a lot of things we "should be doing"... I am not naturally a rebel, but I usually feel my shoulders pull up and my face pinch when things are suggested that I "should be doing". It is human nature I guess, that dictates not liking to be told what to do. That said, I feel like I could offer insight into the world of massage and the wonders that are held in a healing space.
So this is a short blog attempt at giving you the groundwork to just who is this Michelle Moody and why I am passionate about my endeavors.
It started with a premature birth at approximately 29 weeks. I have a twin sister and remarkably we survived, even after having our last blessings said and the funeral arrangements made, we are both alive and kicking! I think starting a fragile life in the intensive care, within the walls of my incubator is where and when I began to crave touch. Touch as I now know, is the first of our senses to develop. I always had my sister and the warm walls of a womb to touch and now there was nothing. While I was married and in my 20's I received my first massage. The magnitude of having bodywork and shown compassion and grace was transformative for me. I knew immediately that his was what I needed for my soul. Not only to recieve, but to give as well. That day started and epic adventure of what is now Massage for Mommies.
Through Massage, Postpartum Doula care and Infant Massage instruction, I strive to help complete the cycle with teaching compassion through touch, love and holding space in what is an amazing time in our lives. Not just as a pregnant mother but also as a beloved baby... lets start things off right for this special being you are bringing into the world. A world where compassion, nurturing and individuality are as valued as our material things, where young parents feel empowered to make their own decisions free of judgment.
That's why I do what I do, that's why I am passionate about what I do. I am on a mission to make the planet and life more enjoyable and a better place to be...
Author Michelle Moody
I lead a happy little life, where my mission is to spread love, empathy and healing through massage.